Exposing Selena Gomez as a Person: Her Devious Side, Insecurity, Jealousy and more! (part 2)
YES, IT’S DAY 2 OF OUR EXPOSING MARATHON!
Welcome back to the “Selena as a Person” series. This is the long awaited part 2 follow up of the series! These As-A-Person posts talk about WHO the celebrity really is and it explains a lot about why they do the things they do, how they think, their upbringing, and so much more. Trust me, this is something you want to read.
If you haven’t yet read part 1, I suggest you should because this is the continuation.
The first part talked about Selena’s upbringing, her relationship with her mom, how her mom affected her, how she was in the beginning of her fame, her relationship with Demi Lovato, and Selena’s FUNNY and GENUINE SIDE. Which brings us to….
Selena’s Devious Side
Just got goosebumps.
You do NOT want to get on her bad side.
Except if you’re ESMG who doesn’t give a shit and Selena is the one who doesn’t want to be on our bad side.
Selena does not play when she’s mad or hurt. She will make it her life’s mission to hurt someone 20x worse if they hurt her in the slightest. This is something dear old Mandy (her mom), taught Selena as she was constructing her messed up childhood.
Use THEIR weakness against them.
Aka Selena’s motto.
And Selena has a messed up definition of being hurt. It’s actually alarming.
If you make a comment about what she does that you don’t like, she’s hurt.
If you compliment her boyfriend out of genuine friendship, she’s pissed.
If you don’t compliment her everyday, she’s mad.
If you argue with her about something, she won’t ever forget it.
Selena’s anger
There’s a really good example of what Selena does when she’s angry which shows how she plays it off.
Example 1 of Selena’s anger
Let’s just say your name is Lorde and you say you don’t like the meaning of hm… idk…. her song Come and Get It. Selena will treat that as if you shot her sister.
To Selena, that comment pissed her off very much.
And this happened in 2013 as you can see with the following receipts.
This is so funny! She’s like “I’M GOING TO SUPPORT HER WHETHER SHE LIKES ME OR NOT” when she was really fuming with her anger. It’s funny because she’s saying this crap, but proceeded to stop singing Royals every night on tour like she usually did before Lorde’s comment. She instead replaced it with “Roar” by Katy Perry.
Honestly the series of events just show you how fake and “sweet” she is in the media, but then she will practice the opposite of what she preaches.
Before Lorde’s rightful comment and opinion:
After Lorde’s rightful comment and opinion:
She loves playing the role of a victim. Lorde said one thing about how she doesn’t like Come and Get It’s message and Selena made it into a “I’m sad :( she doesn’t like me :( she’s a bad feminist :( feel bad for me :( buy my shitty music :(”
Selena literally sat there and when questioned about who was up and coming in Hollywood she said “she doesn’t like me :( but Lorde :(“
Can she be more victimizing??
She basically turned the whole situation into a, YOU ARE A BULLY FOR HAVING AN OPINION ABOUT ME.
That Lorde situation is a cute little summary of how Selena really is when it comes to running into different opinions. And to make sure no one blames her for any of her comments, she will go on ahead and pose with you after she’s mindfucked you into thinking you are the problem and you are to blame.
Of course this Lorde situation deals with Taylor who has her little own rules and squad regulations that you can read about in our post, so we don’t get off topic.
Example 2 of Selena’s anger with a mix of a secret agenda
A most recent example of this is her drama with Bella Hadid. Selena slept with Bella’s man and after their work fling was over, Selena decided to follow Bella on Instagram. A couple days later when Bella didn’t return the follow back, Selena commented on her picture. Bella doesn’t want anything to do with her so she deleted the picture that Selena commented on. A fan posted this whole encounter in which Selena commented “that sucks :(" and then Bella Hadid started getting hate.
Selena is in no position to be angry or making demands. Yet she is!
This is how Selena works. She wants to twist the narrative and make it seem like she hates the drama even though she BRINGS THE DRAMA. After Bella received hate, Selena came to the rescue in a problem SHE STARTED, and was like “No guys I didn’t know the whole story I misunderstood lol!”
Girl the hate parade already commenced. What’s done is done.
Turns out she just wanted Abel to think she had alliance over him because she was insecure of what his new era would reveal about her.
Example 3 of Selena’s anger with a mix of insecurity and jealousy
If you’re her ex-boyfriend and you take a picture with a Victoria Secret model named Barbara Palvin, she’s going to start…
FUMING WITH ANGER.
Yes, despite the fact that you are SINGLE that night. (What an iconic night, I love American history!)
And she will once again want the whole world to know what a BAD person you are and how she is a VICTIM.
She literally posted the picture of Justin and his friend who we don’t talk about, posing with Barbara, and captioned the picture “…..”
Was it iconic? Yes.
Was it uncalled for? Yes.
Why? Barbara started receiving death threats. Justin started receiving death threats for being single. And who was once again the victim who was wrong? The person who's ALWAYS the victim! The one who’s NEVER WRONG! The saint herself: Selena Marie Gomez.
Selena’s anger that was fueled by insecurity and jealousy, despite being UNJUST, brought death threats to two people who honestly did nothing wrong.
After that whole drama, she bitterly went to take a picture with Barbara at an event, a few months AFTER all the drama, at the 2013 Golden Globes.
Funny how that picture never got published, but that little corner blurry photo did.
Fun fact: She didn’t allow it to get published. Selena wanted to know what happened that night with Justin despite the fact that it was literally two months after Barbara and Justin met. On top of that, her psycho ass was acting like that while he was single! Toxic and alarming.
October 29, 2012
Justin didn’t cheat on Selena with Barbara btw so don’t use that as an excuse. They broke up October 2012, The VS thing happened during the breakup. Don’t try ESMG with lies. She cheated on him. He exposed her. Her team covered it up so it doesn’t be a big thing. We been knew.
And just in case you don’t wanna take our word and you’d prefer to take Selena’s word, while dating Abel in 2017, she herself stated that before him, she was SINGLE for 4 years beforehand. Checkmate bitch.
I hate to bring up Justin so much in Selena’s history, but the tea is, Justin is Selena’s history. They were intertwined into each other’s lives for like 8 years and STILL ARE. So these examples are brought up to explain why Selena is the way she is and to kind of prove these qualities in her.
Continuing Selena’s game of “I’m gonna make you look bad in front of the whole world because I’M insecure and jealous.”
The Release of “Lose You To Love Me”
Her single “Lose You To Love Me” was released October 2019, about a month after Justin’s wedding and obsessively, 7 years after the official Jelena breakup. What role do you think Selena is playing here? Remember, in her head, she’s never wrong.
Selena is yet again playing the same victim card she played in 2013.
Anybody else tired?
“Lose You To Love Me” is Selena’s LEAD single that was finished in January 2019, but strategically released after Justin and Hailey Bieber’s wedding. I’m talking the same month. Why? Well Justin hurt Selena so if she can’t control him, she needs to control how those see him. What’s Justin branded as? An abusive and toxic cheater. What’s Selena in this millionth example? A victim, yes! You guys are starting to catch on.
She’s angry that he left her so of course she’s going to do what she does best: victimize herself and send a rush of cowardly stans with an arsenal of death threats and bullying.
Selena gets angry very fast over the stupidest things. Her fast anger has gotten her in trouble many times.
Example 4 of Selena’s anger fueled by a defensive mechanism
One time she was angry that her big leader, Taylor Swift, was getting exposed by Kim Kardashian. She spoke up to defend Taylor (and win some brownie points with her superior), in the midst of Taylor being exposed for lying. Selena said:
Okay fair enough, Selena. Justifiably so, someone said “Why didn’t you speak up about the Black Lives Matter movement?”
Automatically Selena shut to her defensive and angry side which resulted in her lashing out and completely dissing the Black Lives Matter movement.
Note: This is just an example, but you can apply this knowledge into Selena’s life behind the scenes. Her friend gave her constructive criticism? NOt on her watch! She will lash out and get angry. These examples are listed to show her qualities in action!
Selena is someone who practices self victimization. She made a point that was hypocritical and got called out for it. You know what people don’t talk about often? Her tweet about not needing “hate in any form.”
What did she do the next month in August, after saying “talk about important things!” No, NOT talk about the BLM movement or even apologize. She took to Instagram to attack her ex, Justin Bieber while he was defending Sofia Richie from racist comments, saying “don’t hate on your fans! They’re just looking out for you.”
And then spent TWO DAYS liking hate posts.
As you can see, talking about Justin is more important than talking about the BLM movement. Sure Selena doesn’t NEED to talk about BLM, but she is the one who said “wHY doN’T wE tAlK aBoUT thINGs tHAt mAtTEr?”
Selena loves playing the savior role in her victim play.
She’ll create a problem.
The problem will escalate.
She will then come to “save” the problem.
And that’s what she did with the Sofia Richie situation and the Bella Hadid IG drama. That is also what she did with the release of LYTLM and Hailey was getting hate, so Selena swopped in like “nO iDoNT stANd for wOMeN hAITiing oN eAcH OTher.” Girl.. And if confronted about her actions, she will be defensive on a massive scale and SHIT ON YOU instead of acknowledging that Ms. Gomez was not wrong. This is seen in the BLM tweet and her made up drama with Lorde.
This is all PUBLIC examples. You guys don’t know the severity of the examples that are not brought to the public eye. This is another reason why being friends with her needs to always be on a “her terms” basis.
She used to fight with Justin because he took pictures with pretty fans. FANS.
One time her and Justin were in a hotel, (this was years ago in 2012) and Justin decided to go take pictures with fans. The only thing that helped her keep cool was that in her eyes, one of the fans was “fat.” She literally said “Oh she’s fat it’s okay.” (This is an old ESMG story that veteran readers might remember.)
That brings me to point #2.
Selena’s jealousy.
Selena gets jealous as quickly as it takes for someone to drink a small glass of water. It happens instantly and for no reason sometimes.
If you accidentally make her jealous, she will punish you as if you meant to hurt her. And then she will take it as a personal attack!
In Selena’s mind, everyone is out to get her. Her paranoia is speculated to be fueled by her upbringing and then emphasized by her drug addiction.
Selena and Justin’s public drama was all fueled by Selena’s anger and her jealousy. Anger and jealousy that was UNJUST for the most part.
Justin and her were broken up. He was trying to move on, JUST LIKE SHE DID, but Selena didn’t like that. She didn’t want him hanging out with other girls EVEN THOUGH SHE BROKE UP WITH HIM.
She considered him “her property” even after the break up. She would move on with guys from left and right, but the second he tried to move on, Selena ran back into his life even though she was the one preaching about what a bad guy he was.
^ Literally Jelena in a nutshell.
This explains why for a very long time Jelena was on/off in 2013-2014. She wouldn’t let him move on normally and explains why they are both so messed up now.
The following pictures show headlines throughout the years of Selena saying that “Justin cheated” or that she’s so done with Justin, but the pictures show them hanging out. And in all of these instances, SELENA WENT BACK TO HIM.
This is a constant cycle with Jelena.
Selena plays Justin
She throws major shade
He gets trashed online
Selena gets back together with him a few weeks later
a new Selena project comes out.
Literally Jelena in 2013-2014. Then in 2015-2016, their cycle was influenced by the updated Jelena contract which you can read on your own.
This is a “Selena As A Person” post so what does this whole Jelena story tell you about her?
Selena can’t move on from something that she can utilize forever and at the same time, her guilt will keep her up at night, but she won’t admit to her wrong doings because she is a victim who is always wronged. And in the times were it seems like she is admitting she was wrong, it is really a ploy for Selena to be a savior in a situation she created.
These are features amplified by her insecurity, jealousy, entitlement, and overall fucked up mindset of feeling superior and never wrong. She would rather live a lie where she is on the verge of DEATH, than admit to her wrong doings and seek help.
This brings me to point #3:
Selena’s insecurity.
Selena is a pretty girl with a lot to live for, but she’s VERY INSECURE.
Her insecurity makes her jealousy ten times worse and this jealousy fumes her anger. Her personality is constantly rotating. Jealousy turns into insecurity which turns into anger.
I think the reason why Selena does a lot of questionable things is because of her insecurity. And don’t think “aw poor sel :/” because she literally does this to herself. It comes with her screwed up mentality.
You can’t fuck up someone so badly and then be like “sorry, I’m insecure :(“
Insecurity stems farther than just tumblr posts about girls who are unhappy with their looks. Insecurity can fuel some of the most powerful emotions in a person. It doesn’t matter how pretty you are, how successful you are, how many people love you; insecurity for some people is their foundation and you’d be surprised how much it runs people. Insecurity can be so powerful that it is found in many personality disorders such as Narcissistic Personality Disorder. So think twice before thinking all of these traits are bullshit.
Selena is very insecure to the point where she doesn’t like meeting pretty fans. She doesn’t want anyone to embrace their beauty because she gets insecure by other people’s confidence. Insecure people lack confidence and other people’s confidence makes them feel weak.
I’m pretty sure we don’t have to explain how big of a problem and how much of a burden that was in Jelena.
Now yes, none of us are in Selena’s brain and proving stuff like this is hard, but her actions speak louder for this than anything else her fans can say. Also this is information from people who know Selena. I’ve been running ESMG for a really long time now and writing this info is as smooth as cutting butter. I KNOW HER WELL.
With Selena, her insecurity is more of a narcissistic insecurity. Like “I don’t wanna see pretty fans because I know I’m the prettiest.”
She looks so good there what a fucking legend.
“Beliebers are making fun of my yellow teeth? Let me whiten them and show those cows why I’m 10x prettier.”
2013:
2017:
Ah the yellow teeth was a memorable time on stan twitter. Her teeth were just always yellow it was like why? You’re a celebrity. No one sat you down?
If I had to describe Selena’s insecurity in a few pictures I would show Selena’s victimizing mental breakdown she had on Instagram when Justin was single and hanging out with models.
“Justin took a picture with a skinny pretty fan? I’m going to start a fight with him because that’s practically cheating and I’m prettier and he better know that.” This is how she thinks and operates.
That’s what I mean by insecure. She doesn’t cry herself to sleep over “not being pretty.” It’s more like “oh you’re pretty? Well I am BETTER.”
God forbid someone else can be pretty and hang around with her ex. It’s fine to feel some type of way if your ex is out chilling with pretty girls (but after a couple years, I recommend therapy), but where Selena differs is her insecurity + victimizing act = lashing out publicly = sending hate towards innocent parties = swooping in to be the savior complex in a problem she created.
Confident people don’t need constant reassurance, but narcissistic people (not saying that’s what she is, even though the shoe fits) spend their whole lives trying to be the best they can be and this means comparisons with everyone.
Selena LOVES comparisons. ESPECIALLY when her fans make her seem like a God.
Don’t believe us? Read on.
It baffles me how she was out attacking the girls Justin was hanging out with and liking posts saying she’s BETTER. Even if he wronged you ten trillion years ago, how did she get off scot free bullying these girls? Why are you attacking them to begin with? And what does Selena do? Play the “no y’all don’t hate on women” act, because what is she? A victimizing savior complex.
These screenshots are veteran screenshots. You can’t find them anywhere but on this blog. You’re welcome.
Let’s also not forget Selena’s LOVE for when her fans slut shaming other woman and praise her as the “classy queen.”
Read the post down below where I drag her for this and this post helps you see more of Selena’s personality.
Here’s a classic example of Selena being crazy jealous which leads her to attack or shame someone else for literally no reason.
Justin casted Cailin Russo to be the girl in his music video “Confident” and that ticked Selena off. SINGLE Justin and Cailin, doing their job: PISSED SELENA OFF.
She had no business being pissed off!
She said:
Meaning, “oh you casted a white girl for Confident? Thought the “Latina” type was more you.” She’s crazy. Homebody doing his job and she still throwing jabs… even though they’re not together!
The music video girl even got asked about this:
Poor anyone that has been attacked by Selena publicly for no reason.
Here are more examples of Selena lashing out because of insecurity and jealousy that leads her into attacking the poor girls that are in Justin’s life at that month.
In the video she says: “Justin you have got to get over your 25 minute girlfriend.”
She also liked this video of Joanne the Scammer praising herself, with the caption being “Selena to Justin.”
Sis praising herself in a situation she was never right to begin with. It’s insane, but let’s move on. I only did this to further prove us right.
Physical Changes Fueled by Insecurity
Selena even got a nose job because she was so insecure.
I’m not going into detail because you can read our posts on her nose job. These are some good throwback posts I suggest y’all read.
In those posts we say Selena didn’t have lip fillers, but then again they were written years ago.
Fast forward to 2017-2019 and it looks like she got major lip fillers as you can see.
Those are some comparisons I found from a quick Google search. However, one of Selena’s most recent candids this December, show her top lip hella swollen.
We’re not going to talk about the detoritating drug effects in her face in this post, but looking at that above photo, is actually very sad.
And finally, the last point in this long, long post: point #4.
Selena’s Bitterness
Being bitter runs in Selena’s veins.
So yes, Selena is the queen of victimizing herself out of bitterness. She does it publicly and privately.
Remember this night?
During that whole fight Selena was hanging out with a couple of friends.
She posted this photo that same night and later she deleted it. This night is an example of how Selena’s bitterness can be DEADLY. And of course now that you’re about to graduate in this course of Selena, you can apply the earlier points we have taught you, and we can only assume how this night will play out.
That night she called up Justin’s mother, Pattie, crying and saying that Justin was cheating on her. Pattie then reassures her that she will get him to stop seeing models. Then she called Taylor Swift and exaggerated the truth.
picture is not from that night but given for visual purposes.
Back in 2012 when this happened, Taylor and Justin were on good terms. But Selena destroyed and ripped apart any sort of relationship between them which is why Taylor turned on Justin in 2013. Because he hurt her bestie Sel, who was single that night just like he was.
You see what her FAST ANGER does? She ruined Taylor and Justin’s friendship and FOR WHAT? FOR TAYLOR TO NOT EVEN LIKE YOU, SELENA? FOR HER NOT WANTING TO CLAIM YOUR DRUGGED ASS? I…
Selena is so bitter, she lied about the whole night and exaggerated the truth to everyone. If you weren’t on Twitter that night in 2012, let me just tell you… it was iconic.
What really happened that night? Justin was filming for Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show. That night they were 100% broken up. Jelena was having one of their monthly break-ups, but this breakup was the big one.
Justin and Barbara took a picture which led to Selena’s insanity like I stated earlier.
I will admit that Justin and Barbara did hook up (make out or whatever), but he was single. It was officially in October 2012 where they broke up for reals, hence Justin’s “lingse” post.
That’s just a small example of what Selena’s bitterness/anger issues leads her to do.
Let’s not forget when Selena shaded Justin for 5 years straight after the breakup and then would come back to him for attention/power over his mind!
Even Taylor went “If you hate him so much why do you keep going back to him?” (This is inside info)
Now I know this was a lot of Justin, but what can say? He was a huge part of her life and many of these things Selena does and these traits she has, are proven right by her experience with him.
To summarize everything I just said…
Selena is a very bitter and insecure person. She thinks she is above people and she thinks she’s special and better than anyone else. She believes that people are objects and she easily manipulates them. Selena’s fast anger is a reason for a lot of her downfall in the past. Her fast anger is fueled by her insecurity and jealousy. It gets the best of her. Selena also loves being a victimizing savior: she creates a problem, but then will swoop in to solve it.
Selena’s personality changes depending on who’s holding the power. She will kiss Taylor Swift’s feet, but attack and ruin Justin, despite being in the wrong. She won’t call out Demi Lovato in public, but she’ll attack the girls her ex is hanging with. When there’s a change of power, Selena changes. However, these qualities that we just explained make up Selena as a person.
So that summarizes part 2! Selena is a very complex and interesting person so I hope this post helped you understand her more. Remember to read part 1 of this post because we talk about Selena’s funny and genuine side (popular to contrary belief).
PART THREE coming soon!
We have written other small “as a person” posts, but the only other person we covered fully is Justin Bieber.
Expect two more parts to this Selena series. Recommend us other celebrities that you want us to cover as a person. Hope you enjoyed!
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See you tomorrow for the INSANITY that is the Miley Cyrus and Dark Hollywood post.
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