The Truth About Demi Lovato and Max Ehrich: Their Quick Engagement
Demi and Max photographed by Angelo Kritikos.
Demi Lovato and Max Ehrich have been dating since March 2020. When the coronavirus pandemic was at an all time high in the US and a stay at home order had been issued, both Demi and Max quarantined together. They were in quarantine with Demi’s family for some time, but at one point Demi did rent out a place for them only and they’ve been on a couple of solo vacations since.
On July 23rd, they announced that they were engaged.
Max’s reps were the first ones to break the news that they were dating. The news comes three months after Demi and Austin Wilson split up.
Demi and Austin Wilson
Demi and Austin broke up in December.
Relationship Timeline circa Quarantine
Demi and Max’s romance was being speculated by fans all throughout March because they were posting things on social media that were similar to each other such as doing the same guided prayers and meditations. They were also known to comment flirty things to each other and show their support from one another in the comment section of Instagram.
They were photographed a couple of times by paparazzi when they were doing some shopping during quarantine.
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On March 28, Max was on Instagram live playing the piano and then Demi suddenly appeared from behind and tried to wrap a blanket around him. He whispered to her, “I’m on live! I’m on live,” and Demi hid her face with the blanket and moved off-screen. Max then covered his mouth in both laughter and shock while looking at the camera.
Here’s the video:
That’s kind of how the relationship was confirmed by fans to be more than them just flirting on social media.
Also in March, Demi was on the Ellen show in which she said something quite different than what was being shown to fans.
“I was on dating apps for a while but as I’ve spent some time with myself over the past couple months, I realized that I am the type of person that will find any way to regulate when I’m sad or lonely or whatever. I have to fight those battles on my own and I can’t let somebody come in and fix those issues for me. So right now, I’m single and spending my Saturday nights by myself.”
MICHAEL ROZMAN/WARNER BROS.
That was the first week of March and so by the end of March, she was already rumored to be with Max.
So much for being single and spending Saturdays alone, Demetria.
In April, there were reports from “inside sources” talking to People Magazine about how Demi and Max have spoken about getting engaged after quarantine. Those reps came from Max’s side.
By May, both of them made an appearance in Justin Bieber and Ariana Grande’s music video, “Stuck With You.”
July 23 comes around and Demi and Max both announce that they’re engaged!
So what’s going on?
The Inside Tea
This post was originally going to go up on a different date, but it was derailed by the news of Demi’s engagement in which I rewrote this entire section.
I’m going to break up this topic in subtopics so we can better understand the whole story.
The engagement
The news of Demi and Max’s engagement was not shocking because I was told by one of my sources that this is something that they SPOKE about and it’s something that was GOING to happen. Not might happen. Going to happen.
Demi and Max photographed by Angelo Kritikos.
So I was like uhh okay.
This wasn’t spontaneous in my eyes because I’ve been discussing it with my friend for a while. I wasn’t going to put Demi and Max on the schedule, but my friend literally said “you should because he’s not going away anytime soon. She really likes him and they’ve been talking about getting married.”
One of my readers told me earlier on twitter, “WHY DIDN’T YOU WARN US?” This is why you should bully me into posting posts like these earlier on the schedule. It could have went up before the Shawmila post went up! This is proof bullying works. Moving on!
As I stated earlier, Max’s rep spoke to People magazine about an engagement. I remember the day that article came out and Demi fans were freaking out and saying this is a lie and yadda yadda. As we can tell now, it’s not a lie.
Demi and Max are NOT PR by any means! If you’ve read some of my posts on Demi, I’ve always spoken about how she’s not a fan of PRs (public relationships that are fake). When I exposed her whole issue with the Jonas Brothers, I even talked about how Demi looked down upon Nick Jonas because of his fake-marriage with Priyanka Chopra.
So what do we got so far? Demi and Max are not PR and they’ve been talking about the engagement for at least three months.
Is he using her?
The question that I’ve been bombarded with.
Obviously I asked my source about this and she said:
The way we all think about Max is divided. Half of us love him, half of us are sus of him. Demi pays for a lot of things because she’s richer. She also doesn’t like to make him feel less than her. You know how Demi is. She’s used to giving and never taking from anyone. Don’t get me wrong, he’s not broke. He’s a well respected actor, but Demi is paying a lot of the bills and expenses. They’ve talked about music together and she would be the type to release an official collab with him but her manager has her on a tight career leash telling her that they will rebrand her image and take the correct route to promoting the new album.
Well, that was a lot.
By the way, if I don’t post messages from my sources it’s because some sources aren’t comfortable with their messages being screenshot and others don’t take place over messages, but sometimes in person (those are more of my friend-sources). In this case, she wasn’t comfortable with the messages being screenshot. Source identity >> everything else.
So like she said, everyone’s opinions of Max are divided and the reason for this is because there are not many facts to assess him on. You know when something happens and it confirms that YES 100% THIS PERSON IS BEING USED? That’s not the case here. Sources are actually giving their opinion because there isn’t so much of a fact. There is no legal binding contract between them, there are no public agreements of “you post this and I’ll promote this.” None of that.
Max’s Past That Makes Fans Suspicious
One main thing that Demi stans have focused on is that Max was reallyyyyy fond of Demi’s ex-best friend, Selena Gomez.
Like… really fond.
Sometime in 2018, he was on an Instagram live with a Selena fan account who was telling him how much of a big fan she is of his work. So he replied back saying that he loves everyone on the live and since the majority of them were Selena stans, he also threw in a rather interesting comment.
I think this was after Selena announced an Instagram break in 2018 after she was checked in for mental health problems following Justin and Hailey Bieber’s courthouse marriage.
I’ve watched the live and Max sounds less creepy than his quote alone does. He talks in a troll-like manner. You know when you exaggerate sh-t to be funny? That’s what it seemed like, but give me your thoughts in the comment section.
In 2018, he tweeted that he’s going to marry Selena.
LMAO oh. All of the significant others of Scooter Braun’s clients’ always gotta embarrass me in some way. Maybe my gal Selena Gomez is getting the last laugh after all (she’s not, see recent health update).
I asked my source about this and you know what? She didn’t find it that weird. I was like uhh…
She said:
He’s a fanboy. He can’t believe that he’s actually dating Demi Lovato let alone being kind of famous. So he tweets and talks like a fan would. He’s always thought that Selena is beautiful and he’s enjoyed her music. Most guys in the industry do think that way of Selena. It’s only after they meet her in which their opinion changes. Max was always a fan of Demi too. I don’t think he’s being a stalker.
And you know what? She’s right.
As fans of celebrities, we often look at other fellow fans that come with some sort of fame status, as “weird, obsessive, delusional, stalker,” but isn’t that some traits of a stan account?
I looked up his old tweets about Demi and guess what? He had a lot. Dating back all the way to 2011, he's always supported Demi and been a fan.
So if you look at his recent actions towards Demi and Selena from a fan’s perspective, it doesn’t really feel as weird as it did before. At least for me!
Demi surely doesn’t find it weird.
I think digging through Max’s history and finding tweets of praise is better than finding tweets of hate. Demi has given way too much of herself to people that don’t have her best interests at heart.
One thing that is weird that Demi fans have brought to my attention is the fact that Max’s manager is BEST FRIENDS with Perez Hilton.
Perez Hilton isn’t just some random celebrity blogger. Oh no. That thing has a serious hatred for Demi and Demi has called him out before and they’ve had some feud.
Here’s a tweet she posted subbing him.
Perez was always able to get inside Demi’s head because being an industry insider, he had a lot of info on her.
However, I’d like to talk about something that I feel like is relevant to this situation.
Real life consists of understanding that not everyone you associate or work with is going to cut off every single person for you. Not everything is black and white. Some things are more important than your own personal feelings especially if it revolves around a person’s life or career. Giving yourself the headache of “everyone I associate with must love and hate every single person I love and hate” just ain’t life. When it comes to Hollywood, it’s a small f-cking industry. Everyone knows everyone and everyone knows everything.
Having that mindset will lead you to have a lot of enemies and quite frankly, it’s kind of tone deaf considering not everything revolves around you. For example, Taylor Swift believes that everyone in her life OWES IT TO HER and MUST only associate with who she APPROVES of and must hate everyone she does too.
how it really be like with her LMAO
That’s just not life.
Hollywood is like high school. You’re all in the same damn playground. You might be hanging out with one person in first period and a different person in second period. And guess what? In third period you’re with someone who hates your first period friend.
Both Demi and Max are almost thirty. They don’t got time for clown sh-t.
Demi and Max’s Dynamic
Right off the bat, I’m going to make a disclaimer. Do not expect this section to be as long as the dynamic post I did on Justin and Hailey Bieber nor as detailed. For the Biebers, I’ve documented their relationship since 2014 and I’ve seen all their ups and downs. Of course, their post was going to be beyond detailed. Demi barely knows Max so let alone me.
Sorry Demi lmao
Similar to Justin and Hailey Bieber’s dynamic, one partner comes with a lot of baggage and the other does not.
Demi has been through A LOT… LIKE A LOT. Even though I haven’t written about her as extensively as I had about other topics, I’d just be absorbing information and just watching it play out. As you guys know, we exposed Demi’s toxic and abusive relationship with her ex-Wilmer Valderrama, back in 2016. This was heavily hinted at in an unreleased song that was leaked earlier this year.
I don’t like blaming anyone’s actions on other people, but Wilmer had a lot to do with the downfall of Demi. We exposed in 2016 that he was constantly doing drugs and always belittled her for her issues. So she felt like she had to go clubs and be around the party scene so Wilmer can accept her. This of course led Demi to spiral down the same hole she couldn’t get out of. She is a grown adult and she is responsible for her own actions as she says, but Wilmer was that devil that would kick her off the mountain that she was so desperate to climb to combat her problems.
Everything was good? Boom, here’s a kick. Restart the process.
And it was a never ending cycle.
Bear with me. I’m about to talk a lot about Demi, but you’ll see how Max plays into this.
Reportedly, Demi was not sober for as long as she says. However, she’s smart. She didn’t come out and say “yeah I wasn’t sober all these years.” She only said that she relapsed in 2018. She never denied relapsing earlier and anyone who knows Demi knows that she has a hard time faking anything.
Now the tea behind that is her team wouldn’t let her admit to her problems. She briefly mentioned this but her fans didn’t get what she was talking about. On Ellen, she said that her team called her selfish for wanting to get help. Why? They didn’t want her to expose the truth for their own sake. They built an image off her sobriety and created so many programs WITH HER NAME that they profited off of. So if Demi were to expose the truth, they’d be like “are you trying to ruin everything for us?” Little did they know, she was going to die because they dismissed her and gaslighted her instead.
Demi is the type of person that needs to come to terms with the truth and not live a lie because if she does, it’s triggering behavior and she will never heal. This is why she had to release “Sober” in early 2018 and it was a cry for help, but everyone didn’t think too much of it.
A lot happened from the breakup with the devil in 2016 until 2018. She went on tour with Nick Jonas and we believe she fell for him (unconfirmed by our sources, but it was suspected).
Obviously they never happened and then 2018 came around and it was her year where she was settling from the high of releasing an album and touring so much. Everything was closely coming to an end and so she crashed. Hard.
I know this sounds bad, but I was waiting for it and I was scared. A couple of days before the overdose, I saw a recent picture of her and I just knew something was off. I was inactive on the blog during that time. My good sis was also convinced that she was going to become part of the 27 club. If you don’t know what that is, look it up. It’s this big conspiracy surrounding big stars that die at 27 from one common theme. And Demi was f-cking tired and she felt hopeless.
Her team wouldn’t help her. Her sober coach, Mike Bayer, WHO THE ONLY REASON HE WAS HIRED WAS TO HELP HER, manipulated her into thinking that she was not strong by herself. So during this traumatic journey of hers, she never really relied on herself. It was always “I need Wilmer. I need Selena. I need Nick.” It was never “I need me.” And the thing about Demi is that she spreads herself way too thin. The girl never stops wanting to help and she hopes that through helping others, she will help herself. There’s a whole story behind this and her fallout with Selena Gomez, but that’s for another post.
I keep rambling because I can’t link you to older Demi posts that talk about this since there are none lol, just wait for the Demi As A Person series oooooof.
ANYWAYS!!
I’m not making Demi be some sort of saint. She’s not. She annoys me 9 out of 10 times and her irritability with people makes me irritable with her. However, she is not a bad person. Yes she’s had her off days, but she will never intentionally hurt anyone. A lot of Demi’s pent up anger and irritability that has been seen on Twitter throughout the years comes from Demi being misunderstood by people and her misunderstanding herself. Plus she’s bipolar so that plays a lot into it. Again, all in the Demi As A Person series.
What does all of this have to do with Max?
He’s the opposite.
Max doesn’t come with that much baggage.
What did I say in the Jailey dynamic post?
Two messes don’t clean up the mess.
Excerpt:
Hailey being the younger and less famous star didn’t endure nor go through what he went through. What makes Hailey and Justin work is the fact that they’re not on the same level of…. trauma. Once Justin’s ex gets into a happy and healthy relationship, whoever has to deal with her will have a lot of baggage to work through as well. Two messes don’t clean up the mess. You need someone to help you heal and grow through it and I hope that one day, Justin’s ex can find someone to do the same.
Read more here.
Wilmer was not only a mess himself, he was just a disgusting person overall with no respect for women and the least respect for Demi. She confirms all of this in her unreleased song, “Sorry.”
Demi was always trying to please Wilmer and trying to be someone she’s not. All this did was ruin her and delay her problems. Everything caught up to her in 2018 because it wasn’t under control.
With Max, he accepts her for who she is and he provides a lot of reassurance.
“You never pressure me to be anything other than myself.” She’s referencing all those years where she had to be someone she isn’t.
Like I said, she always felt the need to go to the party scene with Wilmer to prove that she can still be fun and “down with the gang” but the only gang she was hanging out with were drug dealers so… as she said in 2013, if you are around drugs long enough, you will fall back into that habit.
Demi’s longing for true love and inner demons have gone on for too long and she wanted to end it with herself way too many times because she was tired. She felt like she would never find true love.
Then, Max came around out of nowhere.
He’s nice to her. He’s sweet. He’s lovable. He’s chill. And he never pressures her to do anything.
Suddenly they were having fun together AT HOME.
She didn’t need to go to the club to have fun.
He didn’t want her to.
And it dawned on her—he’s the one.
At least that’s what she thinks.
Everything I just explained is what Demi would say if you were sitting in front of her or if you were in her brain. I feel like she’ll come out and say all this anyways so if you don’t believe it, just wait until she talks about it. She can’t keep her mouth shut for long LMAO she does a better exposing job than me.
The Possible Cons of this Relationship
So going back to what I said about people thinking that Max is using Demi, that’s an OPINION from my source and those she knows. The guy didn’t do anything to show that he is using her. He’s been quite amazing to her actually.
“Oh he can’t take his eyes off the paparazzi when they’re together.”
Maybe because homeboy is relevant within 0.002% of people and isn’t used to being followed with the paparazzi?
Max is entering a new phase of his life and it’s not just with Demi—it’s with the scrutiny of fame. Demi is obviously more famous and relevant so she’s used to being followed around and she’s used to everyone being in her business. Hi, it’s me, I’m in her business.
All of that excites Max because he has always wanted to be a big star. So to him, it’s like wow I got the girl I’ve been supporting for over a decade and people actually know my name! And he really does treat her nicely according to what we’ve seen from him in these… 5 months.
Obviously being in a high profile relationship, you’re going to get some cons and pros. Some of the pros of being in a high profile relationship is reaping in the benefits. As I said in the Jailey dynamic, Hailey is now a Bieber and that name alone is a money maker. If and when she utilizes it to build some sort of empire/brand, it doesn’t mean she’s using Justin. She’s just reaping in the benefits that come with the relationship. It’s like the gravy on top.
However, I’m everywhere and if I smell anything fishy, I will update you guys and we will be dragging. I can’t stand to see Demi go through a bad relationship again so even though I really hope Max is the knight in shining armor that her peers see him as, I won’t be blind to any cons.
Speaking of cons, they’ve only been together for about 5 months!
I don’t think time is a measure of anything because she was with Wilmer for six years and I literally think he is the spawn of Satan.
Guess what? Time doesn’t matter to Demi. You know how Demi assesses time?
Wilmer — piece of sh-t for six years.
Selena — her childhood bestie for like 7 years, never cared for her as much as Demi wanted her to (trust me, there’s a whole story there)
Nick and Joe Jonas — didn’t care for the ten years of friendship or the two years she gave promoting them and being a marketing mule for them
Marrissa Callahan — sold her out and leaked information on her despite Demi trusting her and being her best friend for like nine years (post coming soon)
And this is actually something my source told me. She said that Demi said nothing good came out of the time she spent with so many people in her life that never cared for her in the end so why would she put time as a factor?
You know… sis makes a good point. I’ve had friends for over 6 years who betrayed me and those I’ve only known for 2 years stood up for me more than those for 6 years, ever did. Time isn’t an accurate measurement, but it’s an important one in some cases.
A huge con that could come out of this is the fact that maybe Max’s true colors haven’t been shown yet.
I did some research on him and he seems very sweet. You can tell a lot from his mannerisms to be honest. But time will tell.
Demi is also a bit delusional. This is something I’ve noticed about her throughout the years. She will do something one way and think that that’s the only way to go. The good thing about Demi is that she can wake up and see what’s right in front of her. That might take some time, but it happens.
Demi's constant fear of loneliness and need for love is worrying because it clouds her judgment. However, she’s been the victim in way too many scenarios so if it turns out that she’s one here (I truly don’t think so and my feelings are often not wrong), then she’s dumb as hell. That’s clown sh-t.
Now that all of that is out of the way, are there any other cons I could possibly be missing? Let me know and we can discuss in the comments.
The Summary
I think something that changed everything for Demi is quarantine. She wasn’t used to staying at home and enjoying time alone. She got more religious and found a friend in Justin Bieber who went through trauma and industry abuse just like her. She’s happy with Scooter Braun because honestly if Scooter can deal with messy ass Justin and Ariana Grande, he can handle Demi (also Scooter’s congratulations to Demi was dry as hell yet he licks Ariana’s ass. You’re on my radar, Scooter). She picked up meditation and you know, she’s really stayed away from the toxic Hollywood scene. I think Demi had the luxury of living the “quarantine was a blessing in disguise” lifestyle.
Things would have probably been different for her if it wasn’t for quarantine.
She’s always wanted to settle down at this age so it’s finally happening for her. Also, all those guys she was with before Max? Never serious. It was more of a distraction than anything.
Someone asked if this engagement is like Ariana and Pete Davidson’s. No. I discussed Ariana and Pete and their situation is completely different. I KNEW that their engagement wasn’t going to last because Ariana was only with him to be high and feel like she’s floating on a cloud. Guess what? The cloud exploded and the relationship died.
You know when they say that it’s better for the guy to be more invested in the girl than the girl is in the guy? That’s Max and Demi. As I said, HE WAS A FAN. So of course he is going to praise the floor she walks on. Max knows this is the best he’s ever had it and he’s going to appreciate the hell out of it. This gives Demi the upper hand because she’s richer and more relevant so that gives her some sense of reassurance too. Also, she isn’t with someone who is like 13 years older than her.
She wanted Wilmer to propose so badly, but he never did.
When she was with Wilmer, that age gap had a lot of impact because she was with him as a gooddamn TEEN. He was a literal predator and he looked at her as a naive little girl who would do everything for him. His love was never reciprocated and if it was, it was more of a power hold over her. That age is crucial for most and for Demi to be dependent on a toxic man, it really destroyed her in the end.
With Max, she feels loved UNCONDITIONALLY and she doesn’t feel like she has to change for him. And I can honestly say that that’s the first time she felt like that.
Also, she’s so happy. Like so happy. And I can see right through Demi if she’s BSing.
maybe im tearing up… just maybe
So in conclusion, I don’t see Max as too much of a red flag because his actions haven’t shown any.. yet. But we are watching.
Maybe things are good for her for once. I’m rooting for them and if I get any more information, I’ll be sure to let you guys know. We’ll be posting about Demi a lot more so expect more content!
Congratulations to Demi and Max!
Comment down below what you guys thought! How do you feel about Max and Demi’s engagement? Are there any other possible cons that may present themselves? Let me know. You can comment anonymously so take advantage of that! We will be replying back!